Life

Platonic Relationship

2009-02-03T01:31:00.003+08:00

Platonic relationships, some say that "there is no such thing", others think "why not?". Its rather interesting when i came across an article on how men and women perceive platonic relationships.

Lets start with the masses. Many people think that "Platonic relationships only work when the two just plain don't find each other sexually attractive but have a mutual understanding or common interest."

For the ladies, some say that " It is a friendship with an esteemed and appreciated individual of the opposite gender with whom furthering of the relation is neither advantageous nor desired."

For the guys, some say that " Its a 'method' in which women use to reject a guy and still bask in the happiness of being pleased by the guy knowing that he's got feelings for them."

And lastly, an extremist said that "A platonic relationship is a transparent and sadistic ruse by which attractive and otherwise eligible females smash a male acquaintance, who shows romantic interest, to smithereens by announcing to the acquaintance, 'I just want to be friends'." Pausing to put his head in his hands, he added sadly "Thereby ripping out the poor schnook's heart and shredding it to pieces."

There are so many different "definitions" of platonic relationship, I'll throw in a penny or two on what i think of it. Men and women can be friends, but more often then not (unless obligations restrict) at some stages, one side may start to think what it would be like to bring the relationship to another level. These passing thoughts is only natural and, in my opinion, shouldn't affect the friendship unless acted upon. But even so, if both parties can "get over it", i'm sure their friendship will stand just as strong.

So what do you think about platonic relationships?

Vampires do exsist

2009-02-01T20:06:00.008+08:00

Reading is becoming a favored past time of mine and I've come across an interesting topic that i would like to share.

Vampires do exist, no I'm not talking bout those you see in the shows that feed on blood but "psychic vampires" . Psychic vampires feed on the vital energy of others, we feel responsible for these people yet they are neither our love object nor true friend.

Their primary weapon is "reverse psychology", they never demand anything from you upfront, but drop subtle hints to prevent them from being labeled a pest. Its what they "don't say", and not what they "do say", that makes you feel accountable for them.

Many of these people have special "attributes"which makes it more easy to depend and leech in its victims. They are(or pretend to be) invalid, mentally/emotionally disturbed, or they feign ignorance/incompetence. And more often then not, the prey will, out of pity or kindness do things for them.

In short they are always playing the role of the victim to gain sympathy and psychologically manipulate their victims. Up till now i have only meet/seen female versions of psychic vampires (sorry girls~) , they range from using tears, sad stories about them to even hurting themselves to make you feel responsible and bid to their request. So if you are ever so "privileged" to encounter a male version, please feel free to tell me about it.

But don't just go around labeling everyone around as "psychic vampires", weigh what you have given to the person and what what u have received in return (by this i don't mean materialistically). Friendship and love is often a give and take. Sure some may have the habit of calling upon you for help at inappropriate moments, but similarly you also depend upon them on your immediate need of help. It is only fair.

So watch out, its good to help others but know if it is worth it, blind charity will only mentally exhaust and eventually break you.

Future

2009-01-20T23:02:00.002+08:00

A time period containing all events that have yet to occur, that's what we usually perceive as the future. I no longer believed in predictions of the future, from next week's 4Ds to end of the world. But there is one thing I've come to believe, that is that the things we do affect the future we experience.

Some people plan hard for their future, some have their future forced onto them, and some don't even care. Life is full of uncertainty at this stage of my life, we often have more faith in our fears then our future. I've a close friend who once told me that he dared not plan too far into the future in fear of disappointments. Times have past, he now has his eyes set on a future he is striving for~

What about you? Do you have a future in mind? What do u see in your future?

Friends

2008-09-12T18:12:00.003+08:00

Friendship involves trust , mutual knowledge , esteem , affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to the other party. Among all these , i feel that trust is the most crucial and hard earned among all .

Trust is a prediction of reliance based on the knowledge about the other party . Only time can show what kind of person he/she may be . Each time you reveal yourself to him/her you are placing a bet on this prediction . This brings abouts its pros and cons , you stand to win the tightening of bond , or the pain of betrayal .

How far are you willing to go for such a relationship ?
How much are you willing to bet ?

Things do not change; we change.

2008-08-01T14:40:00.001+08:00

~Changed ... its a word that i hear being used on me alot these days . i believe that changing is part n parcel of life , be it good or bad yes we do change.... But isst all that bad ? Reflecting on the me in de past , yes i can see that we are quite different now . As for now ... I lik de way things are now ~

~Change your thoughts and you change your world~